You should think about your character. Know where you are changing, how you will be changed, what cannot be changed back again.
I wanted my children to have the best combination: American circumstances and Chinese character. How could I know these things do not mix?
She would be quiet at first. Then she would say a word about something small, something she had noticed, and then another word, and another, each one flung out like a little piece of sand, one from this direction, another form behind, more and more, until his looks, his character, his soul would have eroded away . . . I was afraid that some unseen speck of truth would fly into my eye, blur what I was seeing and transform him from the divine man I thought he was into someone quite mundane, mortally wounded with tiresome habits and irritating imperfections.
