When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.
Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone.