I feel more comfortable being honest because I don't have to "remember" my answers. You never forget the truth! I just have to learn how much truth to give, that's my boundary. That's my new thing.
You can't help someone unless she wants to help herself. You can give her a nudge, but if she doesn't want to help herself, no one is going to be able to force her to do anything. I like that "attraction rather than promotion" approach.
When you give people so much, you don't have anything left for yourself.
