The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children.
I am tortured when I am away from my family, from my children. I am horribly guilt-ridden.
For me, nothing has ever taken precedence over being a mother and having a family and a home.
Families survive, one way or another. You have a tie, a connection that exists long after death, through many lifetimes.