Actually we did not have the feelings we said we had until we spoke them--at least I didn't; to phrase them was to invent them and own them.
Philip Roth (1989). “Goodbye, Columbus”, p.33, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

Actually we did not have the feelings we said we had until we spoke them--at least I didn't; to phrase them was to invent them and own them.