To live in that place where both sides could at any moment turn on you? It leaves you in a very traumatic spot.
There have been those moments in my life - in all of our lives - where you think, "I could literally be dead at any moment." Once you go down the rabbit hole, you realize how precious life is and you realize you never realized before how precious life is.
What interests us is not the person who is pitying himself or who is sitting, stewing in their pain and their suffering. What interests us is the person who's overcome it, who's doing their best to move away from it.