Top 12 Quotes by Harville Hendrix

We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.

We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.

Relationship, Healing, Born

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. (2007). “Getting the Love You Want, 20th Anniversary Edition: A Guide for Couples”, p.35, Macmillan

Marriage is not a static state between two unchanging people. Marriage is a psychological and spiritual journey that begins in the ecstasy of attraction, meanders through a rocky stretch of self-discovery, and culminates in the creation of an intimate, joyful, lifelong union.

Harville Hendrix

Marriage, Spiritual, Journey

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. (2007). “Getting the Love You Want, 20th Anniversary Edition: A Guide for Couples”, p.42, Macmillan

Romantic Love delivers us into the passionate arms of someone who will ultimately trigger the same frustrations we had with our parents, but for the best possible reason! Doing so brings our childhood wounds to the surface so they can be healed.

Harville Hendrix

Romantic Love, Frustration, Childhood

Harville Hendrix, Helen LaKelly Hunt (2013). “Making Marriage Simple: Ten Relationship-Saving Truths”, p.21, Harmony

Nature does not care that you are comfortable, only that you evolve.

Harville Hendrix

Doe, Care, Evolve

Harville Hendrix, Helen Hunt (1994). “Couples Companion: Meditations & Exercises for Getting the Love You Want: A Workbook for Couples”, p.320, Simon and Schuster

The depth of our love can be measured by our efforts. We demonstrate our love when we take that extra step.

Harville Hendrix

Effort, Depth, Our Love

Harville Hendrix, Helen Hunt (1994). “Couples Companion: Meditations & Exercises for Getting the Love You Want: A Workbook for Couples”, p.93, Simon and Schuster

Above all else, we seek connection - with parts of ourselves that we have repressed, with other people, and with the larger universe. We cannot experience life in its fullness unless we have an intimate relationship with another human being and, beyond that, a feeling of connection with the world around us.

Harville Hendrix

Intimate Relationships, People, Feelings

We always marry someone for the purpose of finishing our childhood.

Harville Hendrix

Relationship, Childhood, Finishing

Conflict is the alchemical soup that transforms raw emotion and instinct into pure gold.

Harville Hendrix

Gold, Soup, Raw Emotion

Harville Hendrix (1993). “Keeping the Love You Find”, p.293, Simon and Schuster

Many divorced or widowed people do with their singleness what they should have done before they married for the first time: live alone, find their own rhythms, date a variety of people, go into therapy, develop new friends and interests, learn how to live with and care for themselves.

Harville Hendrix

Single, Should Have, People

Singleness would be recognized as a vital stage of the journey to maturation, a time to learn about who we are, to learn responsibility and self-sufficiency, to identify our true desires, and to confront our inner strengths and demons.

Harville Hendrix

Single, Responsibility, Journey

Harville Hendrix (1993). “Keeping the Love You Find”, p.7, Simon and Schuster

When we meet an Imago match, that chemical reaction occurs, and love ignites. All other bets, all other ideas about what we want in a mate, are off. We feel alive and whole, confident that we have met the person who will make everything all right.

Harville Hendrix

Ideas, And Love, Alive

Harville Hendrix (1993). “Keeping the Love You Find”, p.21, Simon and Schuster