I wrote a book called The Taste of New Wine because I couldn't find a book that talked about the reality of the situation and how we were dishonest and afraid.
Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.
The problem is that this speeded-up life and stress in America causes us to cut off our feelings, so we are out of touch with our reality.
A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.
What happens is that people who are very religious but who are not in touch with reality, cannot be spiritual.