Use your own reason to find the truth. And to do this, you must first get rid of the myths that your culture injected to your brain!
If your culture is not peaceful, throw it from your life! If your religion is not peaceful, throw it from your life! Anything which is not peaceful is worthless! Throw it from your life!
Do not admire the warriors; do not admire the fighters; condemn the fist! Get rid of this low culture of wildness! Admire the nonviolent; applaud the peaceful; despise the brute force!
Your culture is your limit; if you can't go beyond it, you will remain as a frog of your little lake!