Everyone understands that love comes in many different packages and is used in many different ways. You cannot love beyond your years, nor can you fail to love beneath them... In other words, I think you get the love you need when you open your heart.
Photographers direct the eye toward a particular object. We who write, one hopes, are directing the heart and the soul.
Most of my books are a two-year project. I tend to follow my heart and my mind and research materials where they take me.