I grew up around backstage, and that clinched it for me.
Actually, I was born Adam Zachary Orth. Zak is short for my middle name. I was never called Adam.
Homophobia is manufactured in high schools, so its probably useful to keep in mind that it really does bother people.
People only live for forty or fifty years so if you were married for twenty or twenty-five of those then that was it. Now people live for eighty years and if your married for fifty or sixty of those you start to get on each other's nerves.
I think there is some credibility to the notion that marriage is an institution. It meant something very different hundreds of years ago when it became the norm for people to go off and pair.