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What you're blaming yourself for is being who you are. And that's no one's fault and nothing you can change.

Cassandra Clare (2012). “Cassandra Clare: The Mortal Instruments Series (5 books): City of Bones; City of Ashes; City of Glass; City of Fallen Angels, City of Lost Souls”, p.657, Simon and Schuster
What you're blaming yourself for is being who you are. And that's no one's fault and nothing you can change.