And last, we must bear in mind that the relationships between perception, thought, emotion, and behavior are neither automatic nor consistent. In many cases they are demonstrably affected or directed by culture and socialization. We don't just want what we want because we want it; we want what we want because that's what we've learned to want.
Hanne Blank (2012). “Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality”, p.18, Beacon Press