I do believe in the sanctity of marriage. ...But I don't see that as conflict with being a tolerant person or an understanding person.
I couldn't imagine somebody like Osama bin Laden understanding the joy of Chanukah.
In terms of what people think about me, the truth of the matter is, I guess I care to a certain extent, but not enough to try to go out in the public and plead for some kind of new understanding of me.