Top 25 Quotes by Judith M Bardwick of 37 - Page 2

For workaholics, all the eggs of self-esteem are in the basket of work.

For workaholics, all the eggs of self-esteem are in the basket of work.

Self Esteem, Eggs, Workaholic

Judith M. Bardwick (1988). “The plateauing trap: how to avoid today's #1 career dilemma”, Bantam

Leaders evoke emotional connections in followers only to the extent that the followers are emotionally needy.

Leadership, Emotional, Connections

... there's a large core of powerlessness which is balanced against the unwritten contract that says that if you behave, you'll be okay. No wonder people pay so much attention to knowing the rules, to knowing the right people, to not making waves, to never making errors -- to not risking, trying, innovating.

Judith M Bardwick

Knowing, Errors, People

The Psychological Recession is the cluster of feelings that the present is really scary and the future will likely be worse. It comes from the sense you have no control over what's happening to you and you don't see a way to get your life back under control. It's the feeling that life is unfair; you paid your dues, you worked hard, and you ended up naked and vulnerable. There is no comfort to be found in the dismissal of the Psychological Recession as being just an idea; it is a real phenomenon with real consequences, all of them bad.

Judith M Bardwick

Real, Scary, Feelings

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I am impressed and distressed at how passive hierarchical organizations make people. There's often a lot of overt activity, but it's not going anywhere, it's game-playing. It's play-acting at work.

Judith M Bardwick

Play, Organization, Games

The need for challenge, the need to burst through the constrictions of tasks and situations already seen and mastered, can affect anyone, even those enjoying the greatest gains from success.

Judith M Bardwick

Challenges, Gains, Tasks

Judith M. Bardwick (1988). “The plateauing trap: how to avoid today's #1 career dilemma”, Bantam

Self is a construct, a feeling, an identity that is internal and can neither be given nor taken away by others. We develop and nurture that identity by embracing inter-dependence.

Judith M Bardwick

Taken, Feelings, Identity

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There are still many women - and their spouses and children - who view a reflected self - I'm Mrs. Smith, not Mary Smith - as psychologically healthy. Those people are not motivated to change. But it is really dangerous to live through others'. What ever your circumstances, it is not a good idea to be wholly dependent on responses from others to like, respect or love yourself. Your children will grow up and start their own families; the divorce rate has remained at 50 percent for decades.

Judith M Bardwick

Children, Growing Up, Love You

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Women's self didn't die; it had never been born. And when women insisted on their right to have a self, they weren't understood even by their husbands who cried, Haven't I given you enough? And by their parents who joined the crowd who deemed them selfish and responsible for all the problems in their marriage. I remember it all too well.

Judith M Bardwick

Husband, Selfish, Parent

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For most women being other-directed, focused on how other people feel and nurturing them, was (and can still be) a quality that girls were (are) heavily pressured to become. The unselfish or Self-less woman was (is) seen as ideal. The realization and articulation that the cultural ideal of the perfect woman was someone who had no sense of Self and was a key part of the angry energy that drove Feminism to its swift success.

Judith M Bardwick

Girl, People, Perfect

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The ways in which management can express appreciation for an employee's contribution are without end; the key is to act in ways that communicate Thanks! That was a great job! We can really count on you! It's great having you here! While some people love having plaques to hang on their personal Wall of Fame and they adore being acknowledged at a formal Recognition Banquet and some people are only interested in money, I find the most effective forms of recognition are personal and either spontaneous or very close in time to a significant accomplishment.

Judith M Bardwick

Appreciation, Wall, People

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