Melody Beattie Quotes - Page 5

Money is not evil. There is no scarcity, except in our mind and attitudes. And what we believe we deserve will be about what we shall receive.

When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves.

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.

Control is an illusion.

It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.

We don't want to give the controls to someone else; we want those reins ourselves. We want to get our way. And we get upset when things don't work out. . . . When we try to control someone else or events beyond the scope of our power, we lose. When we learn to discern the difference between what we can change and what we can't, we usually have an easier time expressing our power in our lives. Because we're not wasting all our energy using our power to change things we can't, we have a lot of energy left over to live our lives.

Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other peoples best interests.

The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.

I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.

Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.

Few situations - no matter how greatly they appear to demand it - can be bettered by us going beserk.

Today I will practice healthy giving, understanding that caretaking and compulsive giving don't work. I choose what I want to give, to whom, when, and how much. It takes time to learn how to give in healthy ways. It takes time to learn to receive. Balance will come.

We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.

Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don't have to push yourself to give, do, or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal.

Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.

Today, I will let go. I will stop trying to control everything. I will stop trying to make myself be and do better, and I will let myself be.

Today I will realize that I'm powerless over other people's expectations of me. I'll think about what I want and consider that how I respond to others' needs will affect the course of my life. I will own my own power and choose the course that's right for me.

We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt.

I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214

Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.

Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.

Expressing passion and gratitude will guide your life. Say it again and again. Say it until you believe it. Say it until you live it.

He talks about God, and loving God. he says that when we open to loving a person, whether that person is a spouse, friend, or child, we open our hearts to loving God. He says when we let someone love us, we're opening our hearts to god's love. he says the acts are the same. p 19 I decide loving isn't for the fain. Its for the courageous. p 19

Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy.

This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be.