Dan Savage Quotes

We can learn to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about gay people. The same way we have learned to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about shellfish, about slavery, about dinner, about farming, about menstruation, about virginity, about masturbation.

Don't mistake being an asshole for being a man.

No one has ever gone broke underestimating the insecurities of the gay and lesbian consumer.

I'm always telling people who say two men can't make a baby: 'Anything is possible for God. I'm going to keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed.'

If kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids to Denny's.

the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.

I think astrology is annoying bullshit-which is so Libra of me

Today's unspeakable perversion is tomorrow's kink, is next week's good clean fun

One man's piss-soaked sadomasochistic orgy is another man's poetic ecstasy.

Ultimately life is disease, death and oblivion. It's still better than high school.

One person simply can’t be all things to another person – sexually or otherwise—and unmet needs, unfulfilled desire, and unexplored possibilities are prices we pay to be in LTRs (long –term relationships). Monogamous, polyamorous, Femdom, or whatever: All couples people walk around feeling a little unfulfilled. (Single people, too). Because no one gets everything they want.

We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.

Really, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over.

every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn't

The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that each of us is free to go our own way, even if the ways some of us may choose to go seem sinful or shocking to our fellow citizens.

I'm one of those gay people who's constantly reminded of how fortunate I am to live now and not to be Ennis and Jack [from Brokeback Mountain] or whatever - not that I'd mind being Ennis for half an hour. But it's been so much worse recently. It still is terrible. In Iran, they're hanging gay teenagers. I'm grateful for how far the United States, even with its crazy Christians, has come on a lot of issues. And the fact that I get called a faggot occasionally by a crack addict, while annoying, certainly isn't a lobotomy and prison.

A certain tiny percentage of everyone is gay.

You can’t pray away the gay, but you can torture a conflicted closet case to death.

I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.

the truth is often a mixed message

There's a big mistake the left has made with talking to religious people, which is attempting to talk them out of their interpretations of the Bible, attempting to have theological debate with them. When I'm on right-wing whackjob radio, when people call up to inform me that I'm going to hell, I concede the point. "I'm going to hell. Yes. Can you leave me alone now?"

I waver between a cop-out agnostic and principled atheism

I always kind of divided the gay guys I met up into two groups when I first started coming out. There were the guys who thought there was something fundamentally wrong with them and hated themselves and were so burdened with shame and internalized homophobia. It just really paralyzed and shredded them. And then there were guys like me who thought, "I'm fine, everybody else is crazy. My church is sick and the family's crazy, but me? I'm fine."

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

If sex isn't an important part of your marriage, you can't beef if your wife or husband does this unimportant thing with somebody else every once in a while, if you have no interest in it.