Warren Farrell Quotes

When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.

In San Diego there is a highly popular course called How to Marry Money. Note that the marriage is to money - not to a person. I inquired about the percentage of men attending... 'The course is really for women,' [the instructor replied,] 'it's not relevant to men.'

The government passed more laws to protect women from dirty jokes than to protect men from death by faulty rafters at a construction site.

When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used.

I am often asked why men don't get as worked up as they might about women - particularly poor women - having to use their bodies as prostitutes. Because most men unconsciously experience themselves as prostitutes every day - the miner, the firefighter, the construction worker, the logger, the soldier, the meatpacker - these men are prostitutes in the direct sense: they sacrifice their bodies for money and for their families.

The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.

But when feminists suggest that God might be a She without suggesting that the Devil might also be female, they must be opposed.

Men will not change as long as women 'marry up.' Men won't change until we have a perspective on how powerless power makes us. A woman cannot help a man change until she has a perspective on how powerless power makes men.

Feminism justified female victim power by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.

Is a man's body at stake? Any time a man is asked to work to pay child support, he is using his body, his time, his life - not for nine months, but for a minimum of 18 to 21 years. So the motto of the feminist with integrity is, 'It's a woman's and man's right to choose because it is a woman's and man's body at stake.'

Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.

If women really earned fifty-nine cents to the dollar for the same work as men, what business could compete effectively by hiring men at any level?

Falling in love is biologically natural; sustaining love is biologically un-natural. Sustaining love requires a learned discipline. The discipline of love. The discipline of understanding our partner. (I've never heard someone say I want a divorce - my partner understands me.)

I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.

Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.

Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.

When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.

A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.

Asking the legal system to resolve divorce is like asking a boxing coach to be our marriage counselor.

In our society, the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard.

I define power as control over ones life. A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.

It would be hard to find a single example in history in which a group that cast more than 50 percent of the vote got away with calling itself the victim... Women are the only 'oppressed' group to share the same parents as the 'oppressor'; to be born into the middle class and upper class as frequently as the 'oppressor'; to own more of the culture's luxury items than the 'oppressor'.

We always look at the 'Fortune ,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. Use is a dirty word only when theres an imbalance in the relationship.

The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom - the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection (e.g., by joining the Army