Here is my wish for you and every other child, woman, and man on the face of the earth: Spend one week saying only kind, caring things to yourself. Say thank you at least ten times an hour, direct five toward yourself and five to the world at large. Compliment yourself (and others) each time an effort is made. Notice all the wonderful qualities and characteristics about yourself and those around you. One week. You will never go back. And your whole life will be a glorious meditation.
If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago.
You have been taught that there is something wrong with you and that you are imperfect, but there isn't and you're not.
Nonacceptance is always suffering, no matter what you are not accepting. Acceptance is always freedom, no matter what you are accepting.
When you're experiencing peace, it's coming from within you; you're 'doing' peace and this is true of anything else you might be looking for. Love, happiness, contentment, well-being come from within. Nothing external needs to change for you to have what you want.....If you want to be happier - be happier. If you want to be more relaxed - relax. If you want more friends - be friendly. Sounds simple. It is.
Your definition of who you are is your prison. You can set yourself free at any time.
Feeling bad is not a requirement; it’s something we agree to. Cut it loose!
It is not my experience that we are here to fix the world, that we are here to change anything at all. I think we are here so the world can change us. And if part of that change is that the suffering of the world moves us compassion, to awareness, to sympathy, to love, that is a very good thing.
Do something you fear, NOT to conquer the fear, NOT to accomplish a task, but to familiarize yourself with the processes with which fear protects itself, to demystify it.
It takes a tremendous act of courage to admit to yourself that you are not defective in any way whatsoever.
If you want to know what you were conditioned to believe as a child, look at how you treat yourself now.
The voice inside your head is not the voice of god. It just sounds like it thinks it is.
When you stop comparing what is right here and now with what you wish were, you can begin to enjoy what is.
Be just the way you have always been, with this difference: do not believe any of it, and pay close attention to all of it.
We have a choice. We can love our lives trying to conform to some nebulous standard, or we can live our lives seeing how everything works. When we step back and look at it that way, it is obvious that the attitude of fascination is the only intelligent one to bring to anything.
Getting where you want to be has everything to do with awareness, and nothing to do with willpower.
Every time we choose safety, we reinforce fear.
It doesn't matter what did or did not happen then. It only matters what happens NOW.
A person who is without fear cannot be controlled.
All you must do is accecpt all that is unaccecptable to you.
When we come to that compassionate awareness that is not afraid of the fear, that can embrace the fear, we are able to heal the wounds of the child and the adult and begin to live the lives we've always wanted to live.
If you want to feel a certain way, feel it now.
Self-judgment is how conditioned mind keeps control over your life.
Fear forces us to spend our lives dealing with it, ostensibly to overcome it. But that is a trick. Only fear (the illusion of separation) would want us to work to be unafraid, precisely because it is not possible for a separate self to be unafraid!
An essential part of seeing clearly is finding the willingness to look closely and to go beyond our own ideas.
