The desire to please other people is a potent way to distract yourself from what you are feeling.
Trust allows you to follow your feelings through your defenses to their sources, and to bring to the light of consciousness those aspects of yourself that resist wholeness, that live in fear.
Following your feelings will lead you to their source. Only through emotions can you encounter the force field of your own soul.
Every action, thought, and feeling is motivated by an intention, and that intention is a cause that exists as one with an effect In this most profound way, we are held responsible for every action, thought, and feeling, which is to say, for our every intention.
Without an awareness of our feelings we cannot experience compassion. How can we share the sufferings and the joys of others if we cannot experience our own?
You must experience everything that you are feeling. This is what will lead you to the splintered parts of your personality.