To really be of benefit to others as the Buddha always taught, we ourselves must first get out of the swamp. One of the quickest and most effective ways to do this is in isolation, with very few distractions, working very hard at it and spending all your time and efforts at changing your mind.
To become effortless takes a lot of effort. It's good to compare it to learning an instrument or learning a sport.
Obviously being relaxed doesn't mean that you make no effort.
