Iyanla Vanzant Quotes - Page 15

If you are a card-carrying human being, chances are that you share the same fear as all other humans: the fear of losing love, respect and connection to others. And if you are human, in order to avoid or prevent the pain, trauma and perceived devastation of the loss, you will do anything to avoid your greatest fear from being visited on you.

People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.

What we must realize is that we cannot see everything. We do not know everything. More important, we must understand that it is impossible for us to control anything. The process of life is a spiritual one, governed by invisible, intangible spiritual laws and principles.

Forgive everybody for everything. Just forgive and start - most of us can't start with ourselves. We have to forgive the people we think did things to us. So that's fine. Start there - wherever. Start with the dog who peed on the rug. I don't care where you start, just do it.

Well the beauty of 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is that men are in every show. To our surprise, some of the deepest healing demonstrations have been with the men - the sons, the fathers, the husbands - because they agree to participate with the wife or the daughter or whatever it is we are looking at, and it is there.

You are the only one who can do it like you do it. You are the best. You have what it takes. You have the power. When you put your mind to something, you get it done. So what are you waiting for?

Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.

I came from nothing. I came from the projects and welfare and ended up a millionaire with no frame of reference. I was bound to hit a wall sooner or later.

WE [black women] HAVE ADAPTED TO A SOCIETY THAT DOES'NT HONOR US.

When you believe, or are led to believe, you are unable to act upon the greatest desires of the soul, the result is mental and spiritual enslavement.

When we want to move beyond the pain, when we want to feel better, when we are ready to move beyond where we are, emotionally and spiritually, we must forgive.

I took my kids everywhere. I didn't have money for child care, so I took them to college with me and they sat in the hallway.

The show is 'Fix My Life!' Get it? Life. I do not fix people.

Some of us pray demands. Some of us pray complaints. Some of us pray knowing, and some of us pray not knowing. But prayer is the attitude that you hold in your heart.

The goal isn't to be perfect, but to be authentic!

Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner, but we're not willing to show all of us.

Your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency

I don't think there's such a thing as a selfish prayer. Prayer puts you in communication so you can talk about whatever you want to talk about.

Embrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth, we live our lives like it's golden.

I'm okay, you're okay. Now let's go to work.

Acknowledgemen t of what you feel, what you know, what you need is the first step toward healing.

We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave me. Because I don't really think you want me anyhow.'

You know that you've healed an issue when you can talk about it and you're not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson. You know that you've healed an issue when, having gone through that, has a benefit that you live today.

Love is durable. It's like Teflon. ...Trust is like fine china. Secrets destroy trust.

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people. But until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed.