Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes - Page 9

The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs

NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

What bores the listener bores the speaker too.

You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking, your chance of getting what you need is greatly decreased, especially when you follow the word "think" with the word "you". I predict you won't only not get heard, but I predict a defensive aggressive reaction.

Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people - then you are not going to connect.

Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good.

It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life.

Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.

I have tried to integrate the spirituality into the training in a way that meets my need not to destroy the beauty of it through abstract philosophizing.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.

We recognize that real educational reform is essential if today's and tomorrow's children are to live in a more peaceful, just, and sustainable world.

If we become skilled in giving ourselves empathy, we often experience in just a few seconds a natural release of energy which then enables us to be present with the other person. If this fails to happen, however, we have a couple of other choices.

Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.

My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.

Empathy gives you the ability to enjoy another person's pain.

The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.

Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful - but it's a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation.