Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes about Communication - Page 6

How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.

When we judge others we contribute to violence.

As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.

Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.

People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.

The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs

NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking, your chance of getting what you need is greatly decreased, especially when you follow the word "think" with the word "you". I predict you won't only not get heard, but I predict a defensive aggressive reaction.

Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people - then you are not going to connect.

Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good.

Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.

Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.