Tantra won't work unless you've been trapped by spirituality. You have to be trapped by spirituality before you can be liberated from it.
Women have been systematically pushed out of spirituality by men.
Be radical! The reason you feel so miserable is because you put spirituality in a form. You boxed it, franchised it. You decided spirituality was a certain way but then you got stuck in the way.
The art of spirituality is learning to be happy in any condition and in any circumstance. This is the art of love.